Two very different matters of the heart that happen in the month of February. One is the National Wear Red Day in support for Go Red for Women of the American Heart Association. Go Red For Women advocates for more research and action for women’s heart health. Cardiovascular diseases and stroke kills approximately one woman every 80 seconds. Medically speaking, the heart is a muscular organ that pumps life giving blood to all parts of the human body through the body’s circulatory system of various blood vessels (arteries, veins, and capillaries). This provides the oxygen and nutrients that our bodies need to survive. So, I think it’s safe to say that the human heart is one of the most important organs we have.
The other heart event in February is Valentine’s Day the day we celebrate love and the people we love be it a girlfriend/boyfriend, spouse, parent, siblings, grandparents, or other family members, friends with or without benefits. It’s a day we show love. It can also be a day single woman especially those over 50, find challenging.
Both matters of the heart are equally impactful in the lives of women. This is because the heart governs the things of the body and the soul. Scripture says “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life” (NLT). Guarding our heart is taking care of ourselves physically and spiritually. I believe our emotions affect our bodies. We all are aware of how harmful stress is to our health and the importance of managing stress. One way is creating and maintaining a good self-nurturing routine.
Being a divorced woman over 60 and the daughter of a father who died of heart disease, I practice self-care like a “Boss.” Although I have a list of things you can do, the goal is to focus on yourself as a person and what brings love, joy and peace into your life. That means eating healthier but not depriving myself of some of the foods that you enjoy and some type of physical activity. I have two fantastic granddaughters that I want to be around to enjoy, they are my motivation for living my best life. Guarding my heart from the emotional distress of loneliness, resentment, guilt and shame is key to maintaining and living a better life.
Valentine’s Day can be a difficult day for singles so I’m sharing a few suggestions that might help:
- Go out for a long brunch
- Go dancing or take a class
- Create a calming space in your home
- Go someplace in the city you’ve never been
- Walk in nature
- Meditate or use a guided meditation
- Have an unplugged meal
- Start an herb garden
- Invest in yourself-take a course
- Declutter a drawer or room
- Create a relaxation playlist or download one
- Intentionally plan an evening of rest
- Watch your favorite movie
- Cook your favorite dish
- Listen to a TED Talk
- Say No to things that don’t serve you
- Watch the sunset
- Visualize your best life-then create it
- Realize your worth is in God and not your status
During the month of February my self-care like a boss will consist of healthier eating and exercise, fasting, meditation, prayer and play. I’m going to the theater on Valentine’s Day to see “The Color Purple” and that weekend to see “The Black Panther.”
Betty Friedan said “Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of appointments and strength.”
No matter what the mirror reflects accept yourself and live your life fearlessly.